Make a safety plan
Putting safety first: Your safety plan.
If you are thinking of leaving your abuser for a women’s shelter or friend’s house, we will be here every step of the way. One of the first things we do at our women’s shelter is start making your safety plan. Here are some things you can do.
• Open a bank account in your name, and start saving money. Have the bank send statements to a friend’s house, or tell them not to send statements and just check the account in person or online.
• Get your own cell phone that your abuser does not know about. Again, be sure to tell your phone company not to send you statements. Have the statements go to a friend’s house, or go paperless and do your banking on-line.
• Ask a safe neighbor to call the police if they hear a lot of noise. If there is a domestic assault, have a women’s shelter in mind to go to.
• Leave money, keys, important documents, and change of clothing for you and your children with a friend or trusted family so you can leave quickly.
• Get as much support as you can: Neighbors, trusted family, friends, school officials, advocates and women’s shelter personnel. The more people you know, and who know your situation, the safer you will be.